Relationship Goals: Relationship with self

 Most men, women, girls and boys 
alike are out there with there bows and arrows and going like “I think he or she might be the one” 
and they find themselves shooting at everything or everyone and what happens is people and 
things get damaged when we dont have clear aim in what we are supposed to have in 
relationships”.Many of us are products of people shooting and trying to have relationships without 
proper aim in other words we are damaged. 
Aiming is easier when you have a fixed target. If you are using social media to define your 
relationship, that is a moving target. Relationship was defined as something else during the birth 
decade of Facebook and the current definition of relationships is way different in this Netflix and 
chill decade. We need to aim at something that is stable, I said this is not a religious article but here 
is something for my Christian reader friends “Isaiah 40:8” that is the stable target which you can 
aim your relationship goals at. In secular words, to my non-christian friends, what am saying is we 
have to aim at something stable that is bigger than our petty drives like the media. 
Any ways screw this impartiality, am going to give you a biblical model of a relationship, its the 
best I could find but let me remind you that this article is not religious but it is christian( I do not 
have any right to call myself religious because I go against all the religious norms, I drink, I smoke 
etc am the popular sinner that they preach in churches for you not to become).
In the beginning there was relationship, The father, the son and the holy spirit, thats why in genesis 
it goes like let US make man in our own image(emphasis on the word US). 
Do you know the first time in the bible God says “its not good”? When god was creating all those 
things he used to say and I quote “...its good”. But after he created man he went on and said “it is 
not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper who is just right for him” you can check 
genesis 2:18 for proof reading. Now that brings us to the first point of this long article.
God wants a relationship for you
am sorry to drop this truth bomb on you all introverts(I am an introvert too, how Ironic), but God 
created you to be in relationship with others(not just intimate relationships but also friendships). Its 
not good to be isolated because its where the enemy comes to attack, when you are isolated in your 
thoughts, deeds and relationships thats when the enemy comes to attack(the enemy am referring to 
negative thoughts, low self esteem etc not the devil). 
God does want you to have a best friend even the last one left you dry, God wants you to find a 
preacher or guru that can guide you and help you even though the last one judged and didnt 
appreciate you, God wants you to be in a relationship and marriage that works surrounded by love, 
honour, respect and fun, even if the previous 3 marriages didnt work out(am not trying to be funny 
but I have seen people being married 3 to 4 times). 
Ecclesiastes chapter 4 is where “ 2 people are better than one” comes from you can read the whole 
chapter to get a detailed message on this. In that very same chapter it reads “ if one person falls, the
other can reach out to help” what am trying to show here is that you can know if the relationship is 
from God just by the qualification “does that relationship help you?”. 
You can tell if the partner you messing with, is supposed to be in your life if the relationship is 
helping you. People nowadays are tolerating relationships that are stealing their peace, destroying 
their joy, that have them constantly thinking “I think he/she is going to break up with me” (just 
break up with him/her already if you find yourself thinking that way). 
They are your friends, they are fly, they are fake and they are not helping you( cut them off 
already). God wants a relationship with you first, then he wants a relationship for you with others 
and he wants those relationships to help you.